Useful Tips

5 effective tools to enjoy your performance


The following recommendations will help you feel confident and comfortable on stage, whether you are speaking in front of a full hall of clients or in front of fellow practitioners in public speaking courses.

1. A good speaker has his own special style.which distinguishes it from others makes it recognizable. If you have your own style, you are more trusted.

2. Three important pointsthat contribute to the best manifestation of you on stage:

  • ease of presentation, playfulness, positive, good humor (the speaker should not “load” the audience),
  • richness and conciseness of content (you must write excellent speech),
  • the speaker must be energetic, because everyone wants to follow the leader, no one will listen to the listless speaker.

There are three stages of oratory:

  • you do not try and you do not succeed
  • you try, but you can’t
  • you do not try and you succeed.

The best speaker is in the third stage. Even if your experience of speaking is small, lightness and playfulness will make the audience think that you are a professional.
3. Public speaking is strongly influenced by the mood. Famous people have “catchphrase” phrases that help them tune in. For example, the leading American trainer, one of the best speakers in the world, Tony Robbins, at the beginning of the speech, utters the phrase “God use me” (“God use me”), that is, he represents himself as a medium, expresses his emotional upsurge. With the help of this phrase he is maximally revealed to the audience.
In the Speaker Club, the participants also have their own phrase (for example, “You wanted me to say - now listen”).
4.Be sure to move on stage, but not from nervousness, but by necessity. You can not be constrained and clamped.

“The speaker’s movement is a continuation of his thoughts. If thoughts are constrained, he will stand still, if he moves easily, then he thinks easily. ”
Alexander Gerasimenko

Select three points on the scene and move between them. You should not move randomly - this will confuse the audience, create a sense of confusion. You need to move demonstrating different points of view. For example, if you talk about life in the USA and life in Russia, you need to talk about these points while standing at different points.
5. The speaker should not laugh out loud. Laughter is a release of tension, good comedians, for example, gradually increase tension, and it makes the audience laugh, but not the speaker - he should behave on the stage more restrained. At best, he can joke and smile.
6. There should not be unnecessary movements and inappropriate gestures, it expresses fussiness and nervousness. The gestures of the speaker should be measured, calm.
7.Do not read speech from the sheet. Be sure to have eye contact with the audience so that she sees your interest and emotions. If you can’t do without a piece of paper, follow the rules on how to read speech on paper.

“The safest place you can look is the eyes of the audience. This look creates trust. ”
Alexander Gerasimenko

8.Try to keep your pronunciation clear and change the tone of your voice, as if in a normal conversation. Voice control will help focus listeners on the phrase, word. You can improve diction and put your voice with the help of constant training.
9. Speak confidently and fluently.. You can choose among the listeners several people you like in different parts of the hall and speak, as if addressing them, as if answering their questions. This will allow you to express your thoughts more simply and naturally.
10.Take expressive pauses where necessary. This technique allows you to arouse the confidence of the audience, helps highlight the idea, or rather convey the idea to each listener.
11.Focus your attention on important words, correctly distribute the accents in each sentence, do not speak monotonously, but with intonation, then the speech will be convincing.
12. Follow the pace of speech. By changing it, you can draw attention to words, give expressiveness and make the presentation more dynamic.

From personal experience

Once I participated in a competition of business trainers. Despite the great experience of speaking, I was seriously excited. Catching myself on the fact that I was literally trembling with excitement, I said to myself: “Stop! What am I doing here? Why do I need it? Why am I so worried, although I will now say what I always say in my trainings? ”

Reflecting on these issues, I came to the conclusion that for me it is important not so much a victory as a test of my strength, but can I pass this test, overcome the fear of evaluating my professionalism? As soon as I clearly realized the purpose of my participation in the competition, I calmed down.

Golden rule: as soon as you feel the excitement - turn your attention to the purpose of your speech!

Tool 2: Face Your Fears

Fear is a destructive energy that can ruin any speech. Fear limits our freedom, turns us into weak “little men”, paralyzes our mental activity, makes us helpless and weak.

To overcome fear, you must first understand what I'm afraid of? If you are afraid of public speaking, find answers to the following questions:

  • Why am I worried?
  • Perhaps I am worried about the fear of evaluating others around me?
  • Or did I already have a negative performance experience?

I’m worried about the “rating”

I had a negative performance experience

Why is only a positive assessment important to me?

Why is evaluating these people important to me?

What is going to happen if they give me a “negative rating”?

What will give me confidence so as not to worry about how they will evaluate me?

What negative experience was happening to me?

Why did it happen?

What have I done to make a difference?

What lesson have I learned for myself?

What can I do now so as not to repeat this situation?

There is a good saying: "The eyes are afraid, but the hands do." But for the “hands” to start doing something, one must find the courage to look fear in the eye, to understand the reason for its occurrence. Then the brain will begin to look for a way to overcome this fear.

Tool 3: Overcoming Negative Beliefs

The more you are not confident in yourself and in your abilities, the stronger the impact of negative attitudes. Fears give rise to negative statements that largely determine our behavior. You can learn to control your thoughts, because it is you who decides what to pay attention to and what to ignore!

Do not focus on fear, do not attach great importance to it. Say NO to negative attitudes. Start praising yourself for even a small victory.

It is important to understand that mistakes and failures occur with each person. But mistakes should be a lesson, and failures - a life experience. Look at the situation from a different angle, find the positive aspects in it. This is called positive thinking.

Positive thinking - thoughts that are constructive in nature and allow a person to move forward. Positive thinking is a search for solutions, not an immersion in problems. You are what you think!

If you always think: “I am a genius”, in the end, you will become a genius.
Salvador Dali

Take a sheet of paper and a pen, divide the sheet into two halves. On the first part of the sheet write out all the negative attitudes and fears that arise when you think about speaking. On the second half of the sheet, opposite each negative setting, write a positive setting.

A positive attitude should “warm” the soul and leave the effect of satisfaction and inner spiritual “lightness”.

Mantras of Confidence

I often use these mantras proposed by the American speaker in my practice and recommend it to my listeners. Essentially, these are four positive attitudes that set the speaker to the floor, give confidence and strength.

  • Thank you for being HERE.Relax and feel yourself here and now. Thank yourself for being in this situation, because you have the opportunity to gain new experience).
  • Thank you for being here. Thank mentally those people who are listening to you now, so you are interested in something with them.
  • I KNOW what I KNOW. Think about yourself, about what you can do. What is up to you in this situation, what actions you can take. You must understand: it is impossible to know everything. Impossible to please everyone. What you say is your knowledge, your experience. People have the right to agree with you or not.
  • DO WHAT SHOULD, AND BE WHAT WILL. Realize that which does not depend on you - it will happen as it happens. Do your job well, and leave the rest to the world.

You can find your own explanation of these lines. The main thing is that they give rise to calmness and self-confidence in you. It is important to make an informed decision. We must begin to realize ourselves as unique personalities and live, showing our individuality.

Tool 5: Relieve Muscle Tension

The ability to relax must certainly enter your life. Moreover, the vast majority of the time is better spent in this state rather than in tension. If you do not know how to relax, then in emergency cases you will not be able to achieve good performance.

Everything is interconnected here: if you spend most of your life in a state of tension, then when you really need this voltage, your resources and reserves will be exhausted. On the contrary, if you are mostly relaxed, then you will accumulate strength and energy for the right things.

Mind Breathing Exercise

A good way to relieve stress and relax is to learn to breathe consciously. Conscious breathing is that all our attention is focused on inhaling and exhaling. 5 minutes of such breathing will remove all anxiety and excitement, give a surge of strength and a sense of happiness.

These mantras of conscious breathing are taken from Tit Nath Khan's book Peace at Every Step.

  • Inhaling, I calm my body. Say these words as you inhale. Imagine that with a sigh, you take a sip of clean water.
  • Exhaling, I smile. Feel how, along with an exhalation, all the muscles of your face relax, and you smile.
  • Staying in the present. As you inhale, realize that you are HERE and NOW.
  • I know that he is beautiful. As you exhale, absorb the beauty of this world with your whole body, feel the peace and harmony.

Exercise Relax

This exercise must be used whenever an alarm occurs as a means of first aid and first aid. And also during attacks of internal stiffness, a feeling of bitterness and stress. To fully relax, you need to strain all muscle groups.

  • Brushes - clench your fingers into a fist.
  • Hands - tighten your arms and shoulders. Bend your arms at your elbows.
  • Neck - try to tilt your head forward, but imagine the counteraction.
  • Press - pull in your stomach, make it flat.
  • Buttocks - we strain with all our might. We are sitting on a hard surface.
  • Legs - bend your toes, raise your feet, strain your legs with all your strength.

Now in this position, create maximum voltage. Mentally count to ten, concentrating not on the score, but on the stress. At the expense of "ten", relax sharply, lean back and take a deep, calm exhale. Take a moment to rest.

The exercise should be repeated at least 7-10 times a day until you learn how to arbitrarily, quickly and fully relax without stress.

Recommendations for Overcoming the Fear of Public Speaking

  • If possible, speak on your territory. If this is not possible, visit the venue in advance, get used to it.
  • Find a way to get the most out of your audience.
  • Have good acquaintances in the hall, or get to know one of the participants before your performance.
  • Rehearse at least three times.
  • Come to the audience before those you will speak to.
  • Actively move before the performance.
  • Watch your breath, it should be deep, rhythmic and calm.
  • Do not take sedatives, do not drink alcohol or coffee - their action is twofold and can adversely affect the result of the performance.

Speak and inspire!

To consolidate the skill of public speaking, come to the live training of Yitzhak Pintosevich “Charisma and Oratory”. And the audience will always applaud you!